Those who live in Thailand for a while hears stories about the men in the West (or farang as we are known here) and the bizarre behavior of their Thai wives and girlfriends. To this view from the outside, it is often a source of pleasure. Sometimes it's just a strange behavior. Other times it is a frightening willingness to cheat on their partners completely Farang.
Some of the things these women do, only bring you laugh, but there are other times they take
Her breathing with thesheer audacity of their actions, their ability to put aside any semblance of morality and just settlement away to their own purposes. There are other times when it just their plain stupidity, that steals the breath is.
The following four stories of couples happened around my own little village in Phuket, where quite a few farang-Thai These stories are. Just a few of the things that Thai women are up to.
Unreasonable Behaviour
A youngand his Thai girlfriend have lived for months Guy European, in the house opposite me for the last three. Both are placed very sociable and fast. We sometimes share a few drinks in the garden He seems like an easy-going guy. She is very talkative and generally happy. She does not drink, smoke or play or take drugs, which material is a promising start for Thai girlfriend.
The problem is, she regularly goes completely out of control. Every two or three days they havea violent quarrel. can I say argument, but in reality usually only her voice you hear screaming abuse. It raises the things that shatter windows and then there are tears and drama on the street.
The result is usually that they packed their bags and stated that it is a good leaving group. A great show is made this. She comes to say goodbye because they will never meet again. She calls a taxi and then stands in front of her house screaming to leave her boyfriend, that they forwell.
He remains quiet inside and ignore the whole charade. The thing is we all know it is not abandoned. You can back and forth on the same day. If not, they will again the next day somehow triumphant glance. In fact, this excuse to leave so shallow that instead of her bags packed, she now makes a habit of hiding them in our house, so as not to burden their implementation.
What are the arguments? Some of them are the usual accusation that he plays
around with other women. Often it is that he money will be spent on something, she thinks wasteful. But it's his money! He pays a generous compensation. As Farang Thai women do this routine tries to stop their boyfriends spend their money, it's not because they want to save him money. It's a simpler motive. The more the friend spends, the less there is left for them to extort from him.
This girl has already told my wife, she has three other farangBoyfriends. This is one of the things we do not get Westerner. It's not just that they play these games and their friends to cheat. They think it is something to brag about, and if they get it right proud of her boyfriend in the nose, the better. Why she thought my wife would not tell me I do not know. She probably assumes all Thai women cheat their partners and farang, that my wife would be impressed with their cunning.
I would not interfere in other people'sRelations, so I do not say this guy is about the other friends. Anyway, I do not think he is like a fool. He is returning to Europe this week and I doubt whether he will continue his relationship with this particular Thai girls - but you never know.
Game
The previous holder of that same house was a European guy and his Thai wife. He worked in Europe for six months a year and lived in Phuket for the other six months. He had this way forYears and when he was in Phuket, she seemed always have a good relationship. The problem was that for the six months he was away, had his wife, and their vices maintain gambling.
Gambling seems women really a big problem for some Thai. I know some of the Thai wives on our estate play a regular game of cards. They all say the same thing. It's just a bit of fun for little money. I have seen them play and it's not for fun. You get very intense,there is little conversation, and although the stakes start small, they grow quickly. I've heard of women gaining or losing as much as 30,000 baht in those "fun" games.
It seems a little gambling in the Thai mentality suggests that they are very open to
Addiction. Perhaps it is their belief in lucky numbers and fate. Whatever it is, there are good reasons why gambling is illegal in Thailand. There is an endless source of problems, especially for Thai women with money fromand time on their hands as of farang women.
So every morning this Thai woman play-off for their local map. Sometimes they would be gone for two or three days - they can really play that long. She had this for years and I think she was losing too much. But then the problems began.
The first sign was when they began to ask to borrow money. At first it was only small sums, we happy, could give them. But then wanted to 10,000 Baht. I knew this was aSign of a serious problem. They chased their losses. The only way they could repay the money, was, if they had luck in the game, so I refused the loan.
Of course there are other ways to borrow money in Thailand. Once one of these girls is on the track they will keep pushing. Soon there were rough looking Thai men on her doorstep recovery. She sold her bike and started renting a place. She sold jewelry and furniture, but used the money to chase herAnd losses and the loan sharks kept appear. She began to disappear for a week at a time. It was obvious that their situation was out of control. Then she was gone.
I do not think they got the loan sharks. She packed her bags in the middle of the night and ran. There were rumors about how much she owed, and for that kind of sums it would have
to do a good job of disappearing. There were calls to ask her husband why he could not contact his wife. When he returned to Phuket, there wasNo trace of her. She had not to her family, or at least would not admit that they returned. They simply ran away from it all, the debts and marriage.
Pretend pregnancies
A good friend of mine was very pleased that his wife are expecting their first child. His wife's sister was also very pleased, but for slightly different reasons. They wanted copies of the ultrasound examination of the fetus. She had an Australian friend who was like an old chest suction. She had already twiceconvinced him she was pregnant and had medical expenses. Then, of course, she had two miscarriages and so needed more medical expenses.
Now she was trying the same routine for a third time, but he proved a little harder to convince. He wanted to see the ultrasound scans. So, what luck that her sister just happened to be pregnant.
My friend absolutely put his foot down. No way would he let his child be used as a bargirl scam instrument in a Thai. It is one thing,Stand back and watch these girls rip off their farang friends. It is quite another thing to take an active role to play in the deception.
Without a copy of an ultrasound examination, their bluff was called, and she was caught. The Aussie boyfriend dumped her. All kinds of drama to follow. She had a Thai friend and together they lived the high life. Without their benefactors, they quickly ran huge debts. The Thai boyfriend left her. She got her mother to obtain credit.You default on the loan and the mother spent two days in jail, until my friend paid her bail - after all, it is also the mother of his wife.
So much drama and heartache, that you think they could actually learn their lesson learned. And would you believe it - the Aussie friend decided to give her another chance. Now she is spending money like water again, and convinced that everything she has done is working for the best.
Oh yes, one other thing they did not say AussieFriend. He is very keen to start a family, but it can have no children. It is barren.
Everything to lose
All these stories in past pale in significance compared to what happened to this guy. I do not know him personally but I know his neighbors. He worked in Bangkok and Phuket at the weekend came to see his wife. Their relationship was already rocky and they split to work on an amicable agreement. They owned the house, but there was still a pendingMortgage.
One weekend he returned to find their way home, it deserted. All that was of value disappeared. He was confused and was looking for an explanation. He soon was one given by a bank representative, arrived shortly thereafter. The bank has taken possession of the house. "That can not," said this fellow. "I pay the mortgage each month. The bank said Guy - "the mortgage with another bank. Your wife has a second mortgage on the property and it has not paid."
The Farang Guyrealized he had lost verything. He looked for a way out, but there was none. Can I take over the payments? It is too late. I am a lawyer! It is too late. We were in action for months. It is now complete. In blind rage, caught this fellow farang destruction of the house. The bank called the police and they arrested him. The house was no longer his property, he would have to pay for the damages.
In the next few days, was the full extent of his wife's betrayalapparent. She had
not only taken a second mortgage on the property, but they had used as collateral for
a loan from the local mafia. She had taken the money and disappeared. There were two banks and the local mafia fighting over who was entitled to his house.
I had before his wife only once met a couple of weeks. She came to our house to ask for a
100,000 baht loan. She said she would write a contract and pay back 110 000 Baht, the very
next week. Of course, we haverejected this generous offer. You must also then have to know that they did not have to pay the intention. It contributed to the turn, until a sucker willing to give the credit available. It was actually a local Thai guy she shaved. It's a small world. Another friend of mine recently met this guy works Farang offshore. He worked all the hours he could get to pay off his debts. The bank, with the original mortgage has insisted he must pay off, or they have it from the black listThailand. He loves Thailand and his life here and will not be blocked.
Completion
I certainly do not want to generalize and say that all Thai women are scheming or crazy. All four women had one thing in common, they were all working in the sex industry. That's not to say that all Thai girls from the sex industry are poor. It is not even that all Thai girls who never worked in the sex industry are good. But by and large theseSuch behavior is much more of women who have worked in the sex industry to come.
The tourism sector of the sex industry is all about extracting as much money as possible from the customers. The girls learn to lie, scheme and play their customers like a fish in water. You can take the same mentality in their long-term relationships. They are still the game and unfortunately, the basis of their relationship, how much money they squeeze from their farang.
I knowknow many guys who have great Thai women. I would go so far as to say that the
Kind of stories about the minority and most men who settle in Thailand find a great woman. The cultural differences always cause a few difficulties and Thai women certainly do a few things we find strange. As long as both sides are willing to compromise then it can all work in order.
This is not a purely Thai phenomenon. I know men, the women were fleecedtheir
own countries. And the divorce rate in the West are so high that it really makes no sense knocking on the number of failed Farang-Thai relations. Page of the Thai woman is not treacherous This is a universal truth. However, these stories seem to be more frequent than elsewhere. I think it is mostly a byproduct of the way many of these relationships started.
