The modern, free view is that women experience orgasm from sex almost as easily as men. The more conservative view that a woman can be rewarded only sex available as part of a loving relationship. Ironically, these two approaches mean that women have an orgasm "naturally" during sex and thus make it difficult for women, lack of orgasm question.
Natalie, a woman in her late twenties, had a close relationship with her mother, who was a doctor. I approached Natalie hopes that a motherwith a medical background, perhaps more than others to have discussed their sexual experiences with a daughter.
If young women's difficulties, to have an orgasm during sex, it can be difficult for them to find answers. Natalie was too embarrassed to talk to me, but said: "I spoke with my mother said (I quote!):" Of course you do not know an orgasm during sex! "As this was a known fact!"
For me, Natalie epitome of the modern professional young woman: successful, attractive andconfident. Tall and slender, she wore her blond hair cut short, which it has a cute elfish look.
I envied the easy-going, they maintained friendships with their male colleagues, both inside and outside the workplace. Despite their predicament, it was clear that Natalie had never been either brave or curious enough to speak for explanations for sexual experiences of women looking through reading or with someone.
Natalie was happy and grateful to know about, that she was not aloneexperience a lack of sexual excitement during sex: "I had the same problem. For many years I had thought that there is something wrong with me but was too embarrassed easily, to speak for everyone about it."
It is amazing that we think we live in an age of information and at a time when people have a relatively relaxed attitude to sex. But the educated young woman was not able to find information, to explain their experiences of sex or even talk to her friends or her mother.Young women often do not know how to get an orgasm, and unfortunately there are very few sources of information to learn them.
The taboo of revealing information of a personal nature means that we, the fact that sex is never respected experts about their own sexual experiences. But sex is the personal advice and all other sex should have on their respective personal experiences on public record. Currently each (including man) may be entitled to advise the women an orgasm, even if they do notqualifying experience.
Natalie told me: "Through my relationship with my partner is enhanced by one level. I had been reluctant to have sex with him for about a year as I have in my head, his inability to so that I may signify an orgasm during intercourse "I did not love him or do not want to be with him ...!"
"Waiting for the Right Man for us is like orgasm waiting to come to the prince." (P254 Hite Report 1976)
Why is it so difficult to find answers? Female orgasmnot for men to enjoy sex or necessary for successful reproduction. Order that her husband happy and have a family, a woman is more likely with the basics, whether sex is possible, with orgasm as the cherry (to be affected on the cake!).
So in general sex experts deal with sexual dysfunction (in particular) problems with male sexual performance. Any problem with female sexual power, albeit as a sexual dysfunction, not so well understood.To accept the vast majority of women who move their experiences of sex or on the question. Since relatively few women are looking for answers there are few resources to improve our understanding of female sexual arousal and orgasm.
